Wednesday, January 29, 2025 - A Black American woman has shared the story of how she ended up marrying a Nigerian man who had no papers three months after dating.
In a video posted on Tiktok, the lady who goes by the name Life by
Ila, said she met her man online.
‘’I met my husband online, We got married three months after dating. We
both lived in the same city. He was parking cars for a living so he was a
Valet. He did not have a career. I had a career, but he did not. I had my own
place but he was living with two different people, he was not settled at the
time. We have been married now for 21 years. We have two children.''
She stated that when they started dating she had a lot of people who
were opposed to their relationship because he had no papers.
‘’I had a lot of people in my ears telling me ‘Oh my God, he is using
you for papers. He is lying, he probably has a family in Nigeria, Nigerians
know how to lie, and he probably hasn’t even been to school'. All types of
stuff but for me, it was new because I had never dated a foreigner before so I
had no idea about ‘’papers'' and what that meant.
‘Papers?’' what are you talking about?
So I had to quickly educate myself on what that meant to be with
somebody that did not have papers. In those three months time spent, we really
got to spend time together, date and get to know each other. So I made an
effort to block out the noise and really get to know him outside of his
documentation situation. I knew I wanted to marry, I knew the type of man I
wanted to get married to, and I knew what I wanted to feel when I started
dating someone.
Sitting down with him, I quickly realized he was a very nice person, he
was kindhearted, educated, came from a very good family, just an overall good
person and so I liked him as a person outside his documentation situation. Even
though I was telling people all of these positive things, there was still a lot
of negativity around being with a foreigner that didn't have papers, stressing
a Nigerian with no papers. There was a stigma around that and I had no clue at
the time but after being in the situation, we decided to go forward and get
married. I had good about it, There was no hesitation. I didn't t have any
second thoughts. He was a really good person and I just had a great feeling
about him. I thank God it ended up working out. We have been married, we have a
great life together and it worked out well.
Ladies, what I would say is if you are dating a Nigerian or a foreigner
without papers, do your due diligence. If it does not feel right, then it's
probably not right''.
Watch the video below…
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