Monday, October 28, 2024 – Grade A Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo
State, has adjourned for judgment a divorce suit brought before it by one
Adewole, against his wife, Oluwabunmi, in which he alleged that her behaviour
was intolerable.
Adewole told the court that Oluwabunmi was irresponsible and failed
totally in her duties as a wife and mother.
The plaintiff alleged that the defendant abandoned all the house chores
and always left their home dirty, and added that he always saved the situation
by taking up her responsibilities in the home.
Adewole also alleged that Oluwabunmi always fought him, would become
violent and destructive whenever they fought.
He explained that she would sometimes bite him and pull his scrotum, and
would not let go until he screamed and pleaded with her.
The plaintiff told the court that the defendant of recent threatened to
take his life which was the reason he came to court
Olubunmi denied all the allegations brought against her, and also
refused that their marriage be dissolved.
The defendant also refused that her husband had custody of their
children, claiming that Adewole was heartless and unkind to her.
“My lord, I am pleading for divorce because my wife lacks all it takes
to be dutiful wife and loving mother. Our marriage is devoid of love and care.
My wife was lazy, dirty and disrespectful,” the defendant said.
“We met about eight years ago and later held an introduction ceremony
before she started living with me. I did not pay her bride price.
“My wife, rather than be a blessing unto me, frustrated me throughout
the time we lived together. She was lazy and constantly abandoned her duties in
the home.
“She never cleaned the house; never fetched water nor cooked. I took up
these chores to cover up for her lapses, but she was unappreciative of my kind
gesture towards her.
“She neglected me and always fought me any time I called her attention
to her irresponsible attitude. She would go violent, jump at me, tear my
clothes, and sometimes bite me.
“My wife would go as far as destroying my things. She once smashed my
expensive mobile telephone handset during a fight and showed no sign of
remorse.
“Oluwabunmi was in the habit of pulling my scrotum any time we fought.
She would pull it and refused to release it until I screamed and pleaded with
her.
“My wife also maltreated our children. She always beat our first child
blue black and later took to threatening me.
“She sent an SMS to my sister, in which she threatened that she would
meet my corpse by the time she got to our house.
“She fought me and my sister and moved out of my house.
“My lord, I have lived better since she left me.
“I, therefore, pray this honourable court to end our marriage, and grant
me custody of our children.
I also request an order restraining her from threatening and interfering
with my private life.”
“My lord, all that my husband said is lies,” she said.
“I disagree that our wedlock be dissolved.
“I also plead that the court rejects his prayer for our children’s
custody.
“I am their mother and do know how best to take care of them.
“I had our four children through cesarean operation, and only two of
them are alive today.
“He knew the state of my health, but he still expected that I carried
out tasks that were injurious to my health.
“The doctor specifically told him to excuse me from strenuous jobs, but
he still insisted that l swept, cooked, and washed his clothes.
“My husband was nonchalant towards our children’s welfare.
“He paid little or no attention to their feeding and education. I have
taken up these responsibilities over the years.
“He also neglected my emotional needs. He denied me s3x for over two
years. I reported him to his sister, who unfortunately made matters worse. She
took sides with my husband and rebuked me.
“I was humiliated and I felt cheated.
“My sister-in-law and I ended up fighting each other, which made my
husband to send me packing.”
The court president, Mrs S.M Akintayo, gave judgment stating that there
was no marriage to be dissolved since no customary wedding was held and no
bride price was paid.
Akintayo put their children in the defendant’s custody, stating that
they are underage and still in need of motherly care.
The defendant was restricted from threatening and interfering with the
plaintiff’s private life.
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